I posted before but basically
1. First found Grindr on ex husband phone while “celebrating” 2nd wedding anniversary at the same hotel feb 2020 after we’d gone sale agreed on new home. He got super aggressive and we had an enormous fight emotionally and physically. I ended up on the ground with my finger throbbing and swollen with him screaming at me. I found a counsellor and started confiding in close friends and family. He threatened suicide throughout if I left him, complete manipulator and he’s actually a guidance counsellor in an all boys school which freaked the F**k out of me!

2. Huge turmoil and lots of disruption, sold house, bought a house that needed total renovations, covid happened, moved in with in-laws temporarily (torture while I was trying to deal with his denying being Bi/Gay despite using Grindr).

3. After moving into the new house he had logged into the smart tv. I found out how to see all apps downloaded deleted etc uncovered the fact he’d been using gay sites since at-least 2013, we met December 2014. Went to marriage counselling - he disclosed he was abused by another child and said this is why he behaves how he does but swore he would stop and finally be faithful.

4. His behaviour only got worse, I seen a solicitor and initiated divorce. I moved out in April 2021. Officially divorce November 2022 but he still is financially abusive to this day,  he won’t reply to the credit union from my job to have himself removed from our old joint account. I will have to go the legal route which he knows will cost me more money.

5. He’s got a whole smear campaign with his extremely religious catholic flying monkey parents who actually met in church choir. His family don’t acknowledge that he’s bi/ gay or that he cheated on me with men for years but instead they are saying I was abusive and have a cocaine addiction - all nonsense.

6. I finally after 7 years with him, understood he is a narcissist and although he put me through hell I am so glad I found out before there were any children involved. I have been so blessed since and have met the kindest gentleman who has been nothing but supportive throughout this whole time.

My journey with the Gay In Denial Ex Husband is over, but I have anxiety about fact some poor girl who’s at least 5 years younger than him is probably head over heels about this severely in denial man. It makes me feel like I’m not looking out for a fellow woman but at the same time I’m sure she’s been told every lie in the book about me and if I were to try tell her I wonder would she just write it off as the “crazy ex wife”?.

Just looking for input and any advice. Thanks in advance you super kind people x

Last edited by ExHoGrindrEndedMyMarriage (August 11, 2023 6:11 am)