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    August 4, 2023 10:45 pm  #21

    Blackie563
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    Re: Why did my closeted ex wife have kids with me?

    Im with Rob. I did not tell my kids anything other than we were divorcing. She went and told them its because "she found out some things about herself and she was gay". She did so without me. She said all of the things she told you, "my new partner will have to like you, we will have dinner together and be best friends, blah blah blah. All done to get me/you to go along so they arent the bad guy. No ability to accept accountability at all. I hope your situation is different, but sounds identical. If you decide not to play along, be prepared for her to go full victim mode. Mine isnt really even gay I dont think, perhaps bi, but being bi would not enable her to escape accountability, so she tells people she is gay. Bottom line, she isnt a good person. 
    Wishing a different outcome for you my friend

     

    August 5, 2023 3:07 am  #22

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    Re: Why did my closeted ex wife have kids with me?

    thefuture wrote:

    She also said divorce doesn't mess up kids, only the way that parents handle the divorce messes them up. In other words, I needed to get on board with all the decisions she was making in that exact moment, or I would be the one messing up the kids.

    From what I've read (but not yet from my own experience), it's important for kids to have both parents (or at least a father) present in their lives. It seems like the parents don't have to like each other, but they can still have good relationships with the kids.
    This way the kids would still be somewhat ok.

    Just my 2 cents. We've not told our kids yet.

    That being said, you don't have to get on board with all of her decisions. On the other hand, maybe after a while you wouldn't want to stay with her yourself.

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