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July 6, 2023 11:01 pm  #1


The definition of love

Somewhere I read that we straight spouses need to decide how we define love, define marriage, etc..

I don’t ever want marriage again so I’m not worried about that definition.

But I’m stuck on love.

My old definition was something like “a giving of one’s self for the true good of another person.”  Even in marriage.  And I yes I got this from my religion.

Before all hell broke loose, a therapist told me I seemed to be expressing that I what I wanted was Eros - romantic love.

Sometimes I let it roll around in my head, and I know these words are def going to be included in my definition:

Cherish
Desire
Enjoy

Delight in another’s pleasure

What’s your definition? Do you have words you think are necessary?  Or do you struggle to define it now, too?

Last edited by Tara (July 6, 2023 11:01 pm)

 

July 6, 2023 11:10 pm  #2


Re: The definition of love

My gay husband claims to still "love" me. I have no idea what love means anymore. All I know is that I never want his kind of love, ever again. As for what I do want....I just don't know yet.

 

July 6, 2023 11:13 pm  #3


Re: The definition of love

Anon2222 wrote:

All I know is that I never want his kind of love, ever again.

This.

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