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February 17, 2023 8:16 pm  #11


Re: Separating

gwendolyn and MJM,

What does TGT stand for?

I'm in my own therapy, have been for 2 years (aside from many 8-12 week periods over the last 6-7 years). We're attending joint therapy sessions for separating couples to work through what needs worked through so we can co-parent our kids as successfully as possible. I wish she'd have been willing to do that before all of this. 

We talked alone about what we were going to say to our kids. I asked if she wanted to tell them we were getting a divorce, or if she wanted to tell them we were separating and figuring the rest out. We've both talked about not wanting a divorce but there have been so many issues. Since we've spent so much time apart lately I've felt better so I thought maybe if we separated, we could heal and figure out a path forward. I know that probably sounds stupid that I'd put that out there as an option. I needed to try one last time. We talked about things that bothered her and I tried to explain my side. I told her she has no idea the psychological and emotional damage this has done to me and she doesn't even seem to try to. She said that she's put so much work into becoming okay with divorcing and was visibly frustrated. I said that's fine, we'll stick with our decision. 

Then we told our kids. The conversation went pretty well all things considered. I'm moving out in 2 weeks, 6 blocks from our house so the kids can have easy access to both places. 

I don't know why I'm sharing all of this. I feel numb.

 

February 17, 2023 9:30 pm  #12


Re: Separating

TGT stands for The Gay Thing"  I think you are sharing this because we will understand.

 


Try Gardening. It'll keep you grounded.
 

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