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    January 10, 2022 8:16 pm  #1

    OSD647
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    I don't even know what to say. My husband has zero interest in me or being intimate. He blames medication and work and stress and anything else he can think of. I have started traveling for work. I am a nurse. Even being away for weeks does not help. He does not care. He wont even get a prescription for his ED related issues. I'm tired of begging. If he even put forth the effort like oral sex or toys. Theres been something wrong for a long time. Sexless doesn't even begin the disconnection. . We have been sexless for at least 15 years. As Bonnie answered my email, MOVE ON, HE WILL NEVER CHANGE, SAVE WHAT LIFE YOU HAVE FOR SOMEONE WHO APPRECIATES Y OU. How do I explain this to a lawyer? I think in my state of TN withholding sex and impotence is grounds for divorce.

     

    January 10, 2022 9:37 pm  #2

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    OSD647 wrote:

    Theres been something wrong for a long time. Sexless doesn't even begin the disconnection. . We have been sexless for at least 15 years. As Bonnie answered my email, MOVE ON, HE WILL NEVER CHANGE, SAVE WHAT LIFE YOU HAVE FOR SOMEONE WHO APPRECIATES Y OU. How do I explain this to a lawyer? I think in my state of TN withholding sex and impotence is grounds for divorce.

    Hello OSD647,

    Am really sorry about this. Consult with a few family law attorneys in your area about your legal and financial rights. They would know if it's grounds and how to prove it. All conversations are confidential.

    I had no sexual or emotional intimacy with my now late GIDXH for around 18 years. It felt like he was torturing me with this alone. You did nothing to deserve this.

    I read your post to Sean. My ex had no hidden porn or apps. I assume he had sex with men in public restrooms while we were out together, or while out at a cafe by himself. An encounter doesn't take much time. You travel for your job. That certainly gives him time to pursue relationships.

    You deserve to be free of his neglect, abuse and trickery.

    No - It's not too late. It's not hopeless. Even there, there's something I can do. I just have to find the will. Ikiru (1952), film directed by Akira Kurosawa 
     

     

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