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- OutofHisCloset
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Re: He will Never Admit to Being Gay
M8&M9,
If he's like my ex, your husband's eyes sparkle when he's crossdressed because he's in love with himself, and sexually excited by himself, when acting as a woman. It's a sexual paraphilia, autogynephilia ["the love of oneself as a woman"], and is a sexual orientation--to the self.
Your spouse may be blaming you, but that's pure bunkum blameshifting. You, and nothing you may have done, or not done, are not responsible for his behavior. He is wired this way, however his shame about it tries to make it your problem.
I found it impossible to live with, although like you, I tried.
Last edited by OutofHisCloset (December 18, 2021 10:32 am)