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My first relationship since my divorce has failed. I feel as if my world is collapsing all over again. I choose to fight back against the lies that are filling my head.
Lies: I am alone. Alone inside my body. Alone in my mind. Alone in my suffering. Alone in this city.
Truth: There ARE people that love me. My kids love me. My family loves me. I have a couple of friends that love me. My coworkers care for me.
Lies: My life has turned out to be a complete and total disappointment.
Truth: My life has not turned out to be what I wanted or envisioned as a young person. But, I am young enough that I can make new choices and still build a beautiful life. I am in control of my path. I can choose to collapse or I can choose to prevail.
Lies: What has happened to me is my fault because I am stupid, naive, and sick in the head. My “picker” is broken and I will never find a deep and meaningful relationship with another person.
Truth: I am a loving person that gives people the benefit of the doubt. That can be a beautiful thing under the right conditions.
Lies: I will never feel better. I will never find happiness. I am destined for depression, loneliness, and despair.
Truth: I will feel better. I will experience happiness. I will live a rich and meaningful life filled with love, laughter, and hope.
Lies: I am destined to end up skinny, weak, ugly and old.
Truth: I am beautiful. I am young. I am aging but that is beautiful. Someone would find me desirable. I can continue to grow toward physical health while I work toward improved mental health.
Lies: My entire world is collapsing.
Truth: The loss of one person does not mean the complete collapse of my life. I can choose to be happy and to enjoy my life. I will not allow myself to be destroyed.
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I went into a relationship a few months after my divorce. I got out of the rainbow but picked a snake -- again!
Am glad you are countering false ideas with the truth. Take some time to enjoy your single status. Have fun. Something great will happen when you least expect it.
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For years I countered all the bad stuff in my r'ship with the acceptance that my life apart from the Mindfuck was successful, happy and full. I guess I compartmentalised it all, to survive. Because when I wasn't able to get my head around it..it was easier to accept the status quo. And...
I know I'm not ugly.
I know I'm not stupid.
I know I deserve respect and honesty....but the last 4 years telling myself this, encouraging myself to push forward
"I will do this", digging deeper to drag out more strength....has been exhausting! Mostly because nobody knows how strong I am but me. And the Forum members
I hear you AffirmationsJ
Elle