I’ve written about this before and some may be tired of hearing it, but periodically I think it’s good to put it out there again to show others that one can still have an incredible marriage even after finding out your spouse is bi. With that said, both people have to be in it FULLY (like with any marriage). I feel exceptionally lucky on a daily basis. I really do feel like I won the lottery with my amazing husband and family. I know it sounds crazy and corny, but I could not imagine a better life. We, as a couple, are the envy of many of our friends. We spend all our time together and are always going on adventures together and having fun (slightly less adventures recently due to Covid). I have friends that have told me how lucky I am to have my husband. My friends think he’s pretty damn amazing too. He is exceptionally loyal, consistent, and giving, and he always puts myself and our family first. Everything he does, he does for us. It’s been 30 years, it’s been a consistent and even keeled 30 years. Sure, there was a year that was rough because he finally accepted that he is bi. I’ve always suspected it. I knew he was consistent and loyal and even though I suspected he could be bi, it never bothered me. He wasn’t in a good place mentally when he came out, which is certainly understandable. He was dealing with a lot and dreading my possible negative reaction (rejection). I must admit I do think it was helpful that my husband didn’t hide things that told me he might not be quite straight. I do believe that he only came to accept the bi label in the past couple years. I won’t go into all the details on that, but I am certain he only concluded and accepted that label very recently. It’s interesting too, because when he hears of others people‘s definition of bisexual, he often doesn’t feel that fits him either. He has since taken on more specific, detailed labels like demisexual, heteromantic, and possibly heteroflexable, although he’s had no real life experiences. Now that my husband is able to fully be himself and know that he is not harshly judged or rejected, our relationship is even more amazing.

Tangled