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This Open Forum is funded and administered by the Straight Spouse Network (SSN), a 501(c)(3) nonprofit that provides support to straight spouses and partners who have discovered that their spouse/partner isn’t straight. Your donations allow us to provide important support and resources that straight spouses can't find anywhere else.


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April 2, 2021 7:40 pm  #11


Re: Sliding off the ski lift

Suzuki b, again your instincts are good. Trust yourself.  Sounds like the therapy was not helpful for you - big congrats for saying so in the session. Do you want to be  your partner's gatekeeper and scapegoat going forward?  That sort of couples therapy will aim to make you just that. 

Its been all about them so far. Do you think its time to make it all about you now?  It is absolutely more than ok to look after yourself (in fact its essential, especially when noone else is looking after you in your relationship). 

Its so good that you are recognising that you have rights too, and are working on boundaries.   

Believe in yourself, trust your judgement and listen to your inner voice. Especially if it starts telling you to get a lawyer and protect your financial future ... transitioning is expensive and none of it is for you.

Hugs to you, and have courage.

 

April 3, 2021 8:31 pm  #12


Re: Sliding off the ski lift

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I am in a similar situation, though in my mid-thirties with a 6 year old. This past week my transgender husband (I will not call him "wife") said he will get his own place. We've been married 16 years. He has completely disregarded my feelings of shock and sadness. He seems excited to not have to deal with being a dad/husband anymore.

I have no advice except to try and find what makes you happy. I'm working on rebuilding myself apart from him. After being married for so long I can't remember where he ends and I begin. I'm going to take a yoga class and maybe a French class. Be a little selfish...he sure is.

 

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