Last edited by Lynne (October 3, 2020 5:23 pm)

I cannot define my husband's gender id or sexual orientation for him. I live by the Canadian legal reality of what a transgender person is : gender refers to what the person internaly feells.  I observe and feel the effects of his behaviour on my family., and the culture that was imposed on us .  My husband describes situations dating back to before we met where he is always  being picked up by men.  He likes to be courted.  He revealed to me that he had to behave like a heterosexual macho-cowboy to have anal sex with women with dicks. He stopped because he was fed up with the routine, so he moved on to exclusively  porno and masturbation, and being faithful to me these last twelve years.  He got fed up of the  pretend cowboy routine and maybe he wants his share of what heterosexual men have to offer, I don't know.  We will be entering our 70s and he claims he just wants to enjoy retirement with me.  We live comfortably together, we would not if we lived separately.  He doesn't want to alter his body but has been growing his hair.  

Does a spouse have to undergo hormone or surgery to be considered a trans wife?

Last edited by MarieSimoneLoraine (September 6, 2020 12:24 pm)

Welcome Tinsel!    Great to have you join us.