OneDayAtATime yes I had thought I found a best friend. The initial person I met checked nearly every box. Then after a couple of years it started to unravel little by little. Every boundary smashed, gaslighted to the point where I still have no idea what is real for some things. Not many in my life I can speak to as now it is all about their transition and unfair and terrible the rest of the world is towards their own special self. I never mentioned the things he’s said and done so now I’m just going to be labeled negatively I’m afraid for not jumping for joy to have yet another way the person I first met was fake. So now instead of a best friend there is a stranger in my home which feels very lonely and isolating.

Yes MJM017 unfortunately still living together. The coming out was a couple months into the pandemic and I am the sole breadwinner so no real means to get them out of the house at this point. So I get to financially carry their new life while they do just enough around the house and with the child that it would make me seem like a bad guy if I just tossed them out. Frustration on so many levels as there is TTT plus personality issues and such. The person now is so far removed from who I met it’s hard not to feel taken advantage of.

I’ve got a small remote support system of friends and family that has been a help. It hard to heal and move forward while still inside the mess. I realize some of the terrible things he said to me were so cruel on purpose to cause pain but it’s hard not to hold on to it and take it personally. Add to that not being *away* from them due to lock downs. A friend would have never said some of the things said. Even the worst of the bad ex boyfriends and my ex husband never said some things he said.