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Should i tell her?
I am hesitant to tell anyone (even my wife) about this: I am sure my step father is a repressed homosexual. All the signs are there for both my step father and my step mother and i dont think she suspect him being gay.
Now what!
If he would come out (he never will) it would have the effect of 10 nuclear bomb to his family. Im pretty sure he would rather die than admit being gay but at the same time they are sinking and causing a lot of suffering around them.
How do i deal with this?
Last edited by Lin (September 25, 2016 1:57 pm)
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Re: Should i tell her?
Tough situation my friend. When you say step-parents, I'm assuming you are referring to your wife's parents?
I think if you and your wife have a good relationship, then you owe it to her to let her know what you think and let her decide how to deal with it.
You might be surprised to find out that your step mother does suspect or even knows for sure that her husband is gay, but she (like many people on this forum) is good at keeping that secret.
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Re: Should i tell her?
This is a dilemma. Some of us wish we were told before we found out the truth but, at the time, would we have believed the messenger? This is a hard truth to see, especially if the other partner is in-denial at all costs mode. Maybe you can find a way to express concern about their relationship without revealing your suspicions? Focus on the suffering around them you mentioned. Without incontrovertible evidence you risk damaging your existing relationships.
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