Checking in from Canada. I hope everyone here is fairing well and NOT stuck in a home with their stbx spouse. Stay safe everyone!

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Last edited by OutofHisCloset (May 9, 2020 4:47 pm)

I’m sorry you had to deal with an SVT attack Elle, that’s so scary! I’m glad you have meds and are ok. Is it triggered by stress for you? I have mild episodes of heart racing, almost always triggered by stress, but so far I don’t need meds yet... but my normal checkup with the cardiologist was canceled due to covid, so we’ll see.

My state is still under stay at home orders. I may not be allowed to work until July or August. I guess it’s just as well because I still am teaching the kids at home through May.

MJM017 wrote:

Our area will probably be on lockdown until July or August. Am in California & our governor and local jurisdictions are very strict about shelter in place to keep the COVID-19 numbers low.
NZ has moved from Level 4 (everybody at home, everything CLOSED, no contact with anybody not in one's own personal bubble) to two weeks of some shops, restaurants & schools open with restrictions. With a focus on safety rather than what's essential. The deaths from Covid have decreased enough to cautiously move in to Level 2, which allows gatherings of no more than 10 people, and still no drinking establishments allowed to open I keep a diary of where, when and with who I go, to make contract-tracing easy if needed  
Am splitting my time between my own home & driving to my parents home 30 miles away to provide caregiving. It’s stressful because one parent has always had overwhelming mental health issues. My sibling has a milder form of the illness.
This must be so difficult for you. But what a good daughter you are. Are you the only home-help they have?
Mother’s Day was difficult as my parent was acting up and my sibling was emotionally abusive to them & me. They gave my mom a half-dead plant on Sunday out of spite. If I speak up about the abuse from both, I get blamed for causing trouble. Am sure this is why I took abuse from my GIDXH for so many years.
Omg! what did your mother do....say? What a heartbreaking thing to do..!!
Am grateful to be home alone today.
Gotta be strong to get through this  right?
I hope all of you stay healthy... and strong if you’re still living with your non-straight spouses.

Elle
 

Last edited by Ellexoh_nz (May 16, 2020 9:06 pm)

Hey people I've been visiting family for almost 2 weeks. Haven't missed my partner at all , but it was my birthday half way thru my trip and he sent flowers to my sister's house. The next day I flew to my daughter's city and...lo and behold!....another bunch of flowers. He said in the note attached "if you haven't realised...you're being wooed". All the while he's 'wooing' I'm writing more of the story of our life together and how he ruined what I thought was going to be a wonderful future together. The last time he bought flowers was when I'd got back from another trip away. He seems to only be able to express himself remotely.

 Anyway.....Covid19. New Zealand has just one confirmed case of Covid19 in the country. Our borders are still closed to foreigners (except the American film crew who flew in today and those NZ'ers coming home, who must do the required 14 day isolation). Covid19 contact tracing apps are the norm, social distancing still a requirement, tho groups of 100 may now gather. 

Cross fingers we don't lapse and have to return to Rahui (lockdown) once more

Last edited by Ellexoh_nz (May 31, 2020 2:14 pm)