I would suggest attorney shopping for a family lawyer  to find the best fit for you.  Most have offer a one free hour consultation.  Each is aware of family law for your state and your jurisdiction.For example, my state has a set of laws & requirements  for divorce and custody. My county, which is the jurisdiction for my divorce, has more laws & requirements. The county does not override state law. The body of family law changes constantly due to new federal, state and county legislation. There are also appellate judicial decisions which affect future divorce decisions. It gets very complicated quickly.

An attorney can advise you what records to keep to help you gain the best financial award. They can tell you which to keep to gain full custody of your children.  If you witness your husband breaking the law due to his drug use or use of prostitutes, report him to the police. Keep your kids safe and away from activities where they can be harmed.

Best of luck.

The problem with snooping is that you can never unsee the things that you see. If you already know, it may not be healthy for you to dig further. If you have stacks of evidence already set aside in photos, texts, and e-mails, then by all means pack them away somewhere in case you need them down the road but don't torture yourself day in and day out by reliving the pain over and over.

So today while he was at work, he messaged me and confessed that he has been gaslighting me because the truth is he's a gay man in denial and hes known his whole life. He said that he understands the damage he has done to me and wants to help me heal and be happy again. I immediately started to cry but I feel like this is exactly what I needed in order to heal and begin to move on. I honestly feel like now, I do not need to snoop because he acknowledges the pain he has caused me and what he actually is.