Julian_Stone wrote:

 

Rob wrote:

Julian,

Wow that must have been traumatizing to look on grindr...like a horror show..

Rob,
It truly was. If I'd recognized any of those "down low dads" from my neighborhood, I would definitely out them to their wives because I think it is pretty horrific what they're doing to their families...and no, I can't imagine any straight man would be on that site/app.

I am a "flaming" liberal. I'm not at all religious. I have a gay brother and loads more gay friends. I have an extremely high libido...Even still, I can never see myself wanting sex from another woman (in any context). That's not "society" or internalized homophobia....that's just me. I'm sexually and romantically attracted to men — and I think there's a pretty good chance that is never going to change. I don't think this is a gender thing (men are more "fluid" than women)...This is just the way most of us are naturally inclined.

I’m bicurious but have never felt attraction towards another female — I think my curiosity started because of porn, frankly.

It’s always been men I’ve fallen for and wanted. You don’t think some men who are straight don’t seek out same-sex relations because it’s much easier if all they want is to get laid?

I do. I know how easy it is to get sex with men. Women are much more choosy.

So, if a dude is feeling hot and bothered and just wants sex ASAP, he may go the easier route, even though he is attracted to women.

Last edited by FatBarbieDoll (November 27, 2019 4:51 pm)

I'm 100% straight I'm 61....and I know I am. 35 years ago I thought my partner was too. He's not. If you feel hesitant about dishonesty and lack of integrity and not knowing some mans true sexuality....then stay single. 

One of the best gauges of life is our intuition and our ability to trust in our own fears, values and beliefs 
to measure where we should be and who with

" Can any men here say with the utmost confidence that they are 100% straight and also not homophobic"

I can say, with no reservation, doubt, or uncertainty about my feelings, genitals, desires, or actions now or ever - I only want women sexually. Not men. Not trans anyone. Only women. (preferably straight ones...)

I should add, I am not homophobic. I have had many very close personal friendships (lasting decades, including roommates in college, drinking buddies, and more) who are gay men. I genuinely love one of them (like a brother). There are real straight men out there.

From what I have been told, it is straight females that don't exist. They are all turned on by women, lesbian porn, and such. Am I wrong, then?

Last edited by UserNada (January 23, 2020 10:19 pm)

UserNada I can absolutely assure you that straight women exist. I am one. And I'm starting to seriously believe a lot of these psychological studies are complete garbage. There was an article published recently, maybe the last few years, that showed a pretty dismal rate of them even being able to reproduce the same results when they repeat them! Try getting away with that in any other discipline.

And frankly, after reading a great deal about how horrifying the 'affirmation only' experiment is going on trans-identifying and gender dysphoric people particularly children/young adults and mainly female, some of it seems downright sinister and agenda driven.

I guess you could assume I was an aberration but that hardly seems logical. Straight women exist just like straight men do. Sure wish I'd been interested in a nice straight man and maybe I wouldn't be here. Maybe then I wouldn't have wanted to die and felt like a worthless failure of a woman who didn't deserve the truth from someone she loved. I felt like less than a human being when I finally found out. More fool me for believing a gay man would have no interest in having a relationship with a straight woman. I thought I was actually well-liked and that I'd finally connected with someone who felt the same way. I won't make that mistake again. I can imagine you are feeling something similar. It's near impossible to trust anyone after this isn't it?

It's interesting you should ask "Are any men truly 100% straight?" when I have found myself asking the opposite question many times... Are any women truly 100% straight?  After all... I think I must have read a thousand times how women are more 'sexually fluid' than men.

If what you mean by your question is "Are there any men who are truly and completely only interested in having sex with women?" the answer is absolutely YES.  Some men have no desire WHATSOEVER to have sex with men.  Some might even be revolted or disgusted by the idea.  

I suspect though that the more pertinent question in this day and age is "Are any men/people truly 100% monogamous?".  Because that's what we are all looking for right?  Not someone banged hard up against the end of the Kinsey Scale... but someone who understands what commitment, loyalty and trust is.

*can't believe I said "banged hard" (giggle)