OurPath Open Forum
This forum is for discussion of issues related to Mixed Orientation relationships only, that is when one partner is heterosexual (straight) and one is Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender or Questioning.
If this does not apply to your topic, please find another forum.
* Opinions posted here, including that of the Administrator, are the poster's own and do not necessarily reflect the views or policies of OurPath.
* As a peer-to-peer network, any advice given is that of a peer, based on personal experience, and should not be considered professional in nature.
* Any discussion of LGBT related issues is acceptable provided it remains constructive and respectful of other viewpoints. Hateful, degrading, or prejudiced speech and/or personal attacks will not be tolerated.
NOTE: Due to recurring spam abuse, you must register to post.
- lily
- Member
Offline
Re: Completely Confused
Hi MJ,
I think you're doing great. Having everyone turn on you when you divorced is devastating all over again, same happened to me, it is not uncommon, these people have a way of spinning yarn that is relentless. Before we were even talking about a divorce, ie I wasn't talking to anyone else, mine was in hyperdrive getting everyone on his side.
I think one has to acknowledge that the likelihood is that they grew up in families where a parent is in the closet.
- OnMyOwnTwoFeet
- Member
Offline
Re: Completely Confused
Lily: Why do you feel that a GID person likely grew up in a home with a GID parent?
I do see a connection between living in a home with secrets, maybe—
And a connection with living in a home where truth in general is not allowed, where the pressure to conform to be a certain way is so significant that it over rides concern for the individuals—
Last edited by OnMyOwnTwoFeet (July 8, 2019 4:57 pm)
- lily
- Member
Offline
Re: Completely Confused
oh goodness. it's odd isn't it the way we can accept someone has inherited their hair colour, their diabetes, the shape of their nose, their alcoholism, the length of their legs, their kind disposition, the facial tic, their ability with numbers, and on and on and on and yet when it comes to gay - it must have been the tooth fairy.
I know my ex-gidh was 'like father like son'. I don't think it's axiomatic - gay child, gay parent. But when it is not from a parent then look to the grandparents.
I believe that if you are the sort of person that has an honest nature then, gay or straight, it helps to know the truth of your parentage. And one honest parent is enough.
Last edited by lily (July 8, 2019 10:41 pm)