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1 of 1- Mynewnorm
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37 years a quick vanishing act......
My story is much the same as what I have read thus far on these threads. I uncelebrated my 37th wedding when I quite by accident stumbled upon Amazon purchases that were not quite my style while shopping on Amazon for Mother of the Bride dresses ( I have two daughters getting married this year). He had not responded the way I expected when I told him his Amazon account had been hacked, but he quickly left for what I thought was a fishing trip with his boss. I quickly put two and two together, with the help of my daughter and her husband. Let me say that my two of my daughters ( we have four) had months previously saw text messages that sent up a red flag but they waited patiently for me to catch up.....they had try to alert me, but being the trusting wife of 37 years, and living the "perfect" life, who would have suspected such a thing. Well, I quickly called him and begged him to come home as we needed to talk, he did not and what I thought was a fishing trip with his boss was really a weekend away with a 29 year old man...my daughters age......
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Re: 37 years a quick vanishing act......
It's quite a shock isn't it. And you can't help but think why didn't I know earlier so I take comfort from all the stories here on this board that make me realise it is normal not to know. and actually quite a common tale.
there's a lot of upheaval to come but good that you have support from your daughter.
wishing you all the best, Lily
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Re: 37 years a quick vanishing act......
MyNewNorm-
So sorry you are in this situation. I doubt any of us here could have ever predicted what has occurred! I do understand your story of being the trusting wife. I’m coming up on 33 yr anniversary in July & learned of this ridiculousness back in October. We have 3 grown daughters ages 22-30 and they are supporting me too. My GH claims he hasn’t acted outside of the marriage, but I don’t believe a word he says now. And similar to your story the men my husband is obsessed with are close to the age of my daughters too. It is not only a low blow to learn all of this, but it is literally gross.
I’m going to proceed with divorce as soon as I can. My GH is becoming angrier every day it seems, as he really wanted to have his cake & eat it too and just continue on in denial. Not me, I will tell my story. My kids/gkids aren’t seeing him anymore due to the inappropriate nature of the activities he’s been doing. This upsets him even more. But instead of taking the high road, he is running around like a teenager with a couple of 20 & 30 somethings from work instead of behaving like a 50 something grandfather.
It really sucks to get to this point in life and have to deal with the consequences of making a huge mistake in marrying a person with no morals, values & who could actually do this to people they claimed to care about!!! I can’t wait until all the technicalities get worked out and he is out of my life!
Hoping the best for you in your situation. Most of these stories have many similarities! All the best!
- walkbymyself
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Re: 37 years a quick vanishing act......
My husband is 63, and he's chasing around after a 21-year-old kid. They went out to some sex club together, and my husband took ecstasy so he could stay up all night, just to impress this kid.
This kid is younger than our daughter, by the way.
Relinquere fraudator, vitam lucrari.
- andrea-lost
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Re: 37 years a quick vanishing act......
All I can say is I am SO sorry. I am in a similar position. If you need to talk message me. Vent. Anytime. Its mind boggling I know.