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    April 5, 2019 5:04 pm  #1

    StraightSpouse1979
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    Is anyone else who has a husband that is taking estrogen and have obvious female traits especially a larger noticeable chest embarrassed to be in public with him? With winter at least you could cover up some with hoodies etc but summer it is t shirts which shows everything. The earrings, the face foundation, I just have a hard time having him around with me in various social settings. I am involved in my political party, i do a lot of veteran charity work therefore have a lot of social gatherings and its difficult for me and it makes me feel horrible 
    Summer is coming and we have a swimming pool. I love to have people over all summer and met a lot of new people through my charity work and politics and dread summer because well cant hide a chest when you have no shirt on. 
    It is making me super depressed 
    And i think how i am going to explain to my five year old daughter that what i told her she will get when she is older as she asked what my breasts were, why her daddy has some too. 

     

    April 5, 2019 5:11 pm  #2

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    April 5, 2019 7:12 pm  #3

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    I am not a psychologist or therapist but I think you need to listen to your discomfort over his appearance to others. It is obvious that your husband is not going to stop feminizing his appearance. If no one else could see it does that mean would you would be willing and able to accept it?

    What are your expectations of a husband/intimate partner? Reading your prior posts I sense that you may feel paralyzed by finances as well as your history with him. Try to think deeply about your feelings and what would help you.and your daughter have a better relationship.

    Don't let him take away your female identity. Stand tall and dress and style yourself in whatever way makes you feel confident and beautiful. You are the real article: own it.

    Try Gardening. It'll keep you grounded.
     

    April 6, 2019 6:40 am  #4

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    Oh i do not downplay what I wear as far as being feminine but when he wears some of the same stuff it is like what the hell?! Today will be the first time outside of the house around my friends that do not know (well most of them) what is going on so i am nervous because to me he stands out tlike a sore thumb

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