I found out my husband was gay quite a while before we divorced.  We've been divorced almost two and a half years.  I've been dating someone for about 9 months.  He is a very nice guy and for the most part, I trust him.  We have a lot in common, but I feel the physical chemistry is lacking on my part.  We have only kissed, and I really don't feel a desire for more at this point.  I have seen a couple of flashes of anger that have concerned me and that may be why, though he quickly apologized and genuinely seemed sorry.  Sadly, there was a lot of chemistry in the first few years with my ex.  That's why I question the importance.  We are both late 50s.  He has noticed my holding back, but attributes it to fears due to my ex.  I guess my question is if other things are good, does the chemistry matter that much, especially at this stage of life.