One Sunday I returned from mass (I was a teen at the time and raised Catholic) with my folks and the sermon had been about lust and how one should keep that lust for ones spouse and that lusting outside of your marriage was opening the door to temptation.  My Dad humorously talked about the sermon, pronounced teasingly and lovingly that he had only lust and lots of it for Mom and then he wrote I very clever poem to her about his lust. He was a hard worker who usually did not have time to play so when he showed those moments of himself it was always memorable.   While not perfect, my folks marriage was a long one full of healthy loving lust for one another.

The message was clear though that "where thoughts go energy flows".

This is probably also why porn can lead some to wrong places or being disconnected from their partners and from the simplicity of good sex.

Last edited by WendiT (August 27, 2016 8:37 am)

So very true Kel. I think it's actually more hurtful than physical lust. I'm really having a tough time reconciling the reality that my husband of 25 years didn't think I was worthy of any honesty & that he really never did lust after me, both physically & emotionally. I'm such an open book with my feelings that I always assumed I was getting the truth in return. Putting all the pieces & online evidence together, I see how he shared the biggest part of himself with a network & friends, completely outside of our nucleus & in a way that was drastically uncharacteristic of what I had always known about him. He wasn't the "strong silent type" I respected & loved so much, he just didn't really enjoy being around me to the point he referred to spending time with his family as "being in jail" to one of his online friends. This is the part that leaves me so depressed & heart broken. The feelings of worthlessness keep mounting everyday.