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Day 18
Wow, I can't believe it has already been 18 days! Today, and I did a little yesterday, I am putting his shit into garbage bags and stuffing them in his closet (haha, no pun intended). Someone said I shouldn't do it out of anger or with mean feelings but honestly I think I deserve to have mean feelings and anger AS I do it. The reality is I am staying in the home, paying all the bills (he is unemployed) and I don't feel like looking at his shit all the time. I realize, of course, at some point he will get to come and pick up/pick out things he wants, but that doesn't mean I don't get to put together things I don't want or things that belong to him, right?
Today is father's day and that sucks for me, I mean, of course the 3 girls that I raised to be good and honorable will be spending the day with him. So I guess this is just the first of many holidays and events that I will spend alone~fucker! Coward! Liar! FRAUD!
Ok, well, I wish the other dad's out there a very Happy Father's Day! And I thank everyone for all the support I feel here.
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Re: Day 18
How do you stop the sadness? It hurts so much...My 2 oldest girls came home fm spending time with stbx, but my youngest stayed with him...they went to pick out furniture for her new room at his place. I feel so betrayed, by him but also by my girls. I KNOW that he is their father and they will always love him, it just hurts. In the middle of talking to the older girls I just started crying. I apologized to them as I know it is no fun to see your mom cry, but I also told them it just happens sometimes, they crying. I want the hurt to stop.
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Thread Starter- lily
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Re: Day 18
it's no fun to see your mom cry but it is better to share her emotions than be shielded from them - can I suggest keep talking openly with them. imo, knowing the truth and as much of it as they want is only going to help them.
all the best, I know it hurts and could not be more sympathetic, keep remembering it will ease with time. I have just had a refresher of how much I hurt over my ex, he still does everything he can to hurt me and managed to affect me again. Horrible. I am much eased with time and suddenly found myself thinking this is good, this is good to feel the hurt again, I have a clear picture now of how he influences people against me and how much it hurts and I'm just not blaming myself any more and that is so good.