Thank you Lily, for understanding.  

You know what Jen?  You're right.  I looked back, and you didn't both ask the question and then tell me that I was wrong for generalizing.  It was others who spoke that way.  I had jumped back and forth in the thread reading it while keep being interrupted, and I thought you had both asked the question and then slammed me for having an opinion.  I apologize.

And thanks for the info about the quotes.  I didn't realize that.

To the others who keep telling me I have no business thinking the way I do, all I can say is that it's not personal.  We notice here often how much the GID spouses seem to work off the same script, or have the same program downloaded to operate off of.  THAT's okay.  And so is thinking that being gay is inborn - apparently some behaviors and thought patterns and desires are inborn, but others are not.  I didn't insult anyone - I didn't say that men are simple, that women are too demanding, or make ridiculous generalization like men are controlling and women are emotional.  I outlined what Iiiiii thought, and I even prefaced it with a disclaimer.  No one has any right telling me that I can't POSSIBLY understand men because they're not all the same. It's funny how when I generalize the men, the MEN tend to agree with me, and the WOMEN take offense.  Doesn't even make sense to me.

Over and out -

Kel

 

I have thought of an eerie similarity between GIDH's and straight H's with closet lesbian wives - they are both trying to stay in a marriage with an unwilling woman.

The straight husband doesn't know that is what is happening, his lesbian wife hides her unwillingness or blames him for it - he is trying to stay in the marriage for all the normal and best of reasons.  

It is so poles apart from the GIDH who knows what's happening and doesn't care, he just wants to keep the woman to maintain his closet.

thanks Phoenix.