Daryl...are you suggesting that my husband may NOT be gay bc he may just be a game player by saying he was just breaking chops?  This was when I discovered the pics on his pc, the nude pic of his penis on his cell phone and soliciting on Craig's List.  This statement of "I was just breaking their chops" was directly his response when I found the pics and the solicitation.  There were no viewable dates of the hook-ups just describing himself to others for the interest of a pick up.  I don't have any concrete proof that the events actually took place.  This is why I asked earlier for some type of tracking company to use in case theere were further communications.  The "issue" was never discussed again for a couple years now(even though I do occasionally check his pc bc of the trust issues now) and I also gave him an ultimatum of being thrown out IF I discovered anything like this again.  You have me wondering now bc I was trying to accept IF he truly is gay or just a "game player" which is not right either but somehow an easier blow to deal with...  Anyone have any ideas on the tracking, would be very much appreciated or on this post.  As like everyone here, I'm trying to unravel the web of lies still.

Deceived&Lost wrote:

Daryl...are you suggesting that my husband may NOT be gay bc he may just be a game player by saying he was just breaking chops? 

Not at all. I was suggesting that after he was caught posting on CL, this was what he came up with as a (non-gay) reason to be there. I think it's about as truthful as a $3 bill.

Ordinary guy wrote:

The answer to this question is no. You do not have naked pictures of another man’s wedding tackle unless you are gay

or

Maybe you are a Urologist. 

Hahah! It's very rare I find myself laughing on this site...but this did it  

I've only found references to one survey, made by an online porn distributor, of less than 1000 people, that suggested 21% of "straight" men watched gay porn. This is interesting but isn't statistically significant without additional surveys that either support or discount this conclusion. Not all men watch porn online. There's also no way to verify that those who said they were straight, really are. That's an area many of us can relate with.

In my opinion, habitual viewing demonstrates an interest, as does downloading pics, saving links, etc.

I did not see any number listed for straight women watching gay porn. I suspect the base number of women participating was not large enough to discern anything.
 

Last edited by Daryl (July 6, 2021 8:28 am)

longwayhome wrote:

there is also some scientific proof that is starting to emerge that watching porn over time, frequency surely comes into play too, but it actually starts to change things in our brains. Pretty powerful in my opinion.

This is particularly intriguing to me—and I believe we will see more compelling research on this. I'm a Redditor—and I'm astounded by the volume of posts from young men (20s/30s) experiencing ED issues/sexual orientation confusion seemingly related to porn use. As a young woman myself (not too far removed from the dating scene), I believe porn has also warped men's sense of sex/intimacy—and what is pleasurable to a woman. That, of course, is a topic for another forum.

I've always subscribed to a "born this way" theory when it comes to sexual orientation, but now I'm not so sure. I think maybe it is far more complicated than I'd ever imagined. I've seen an abundance of posts by men who'd become bored or desensitized (whatever the case may be) with straight porn...start watching more "taboo" stuff...and gradually develop a fixation on male genitalia/mm sex. Maybe the same is true for women (but, overwhelmingly, I've seen men post about this). There is a website/book "Your Brain on Porn" that's frequently referenced on "no fap" boards...I've not read it yet...but I find this all very interesting (and alarming).