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Rotten Tree Post
Deleted tree post.
Last edited by JenS (April 30, 2018 8:08 am)
- OutofHisCloset
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Re: Rotten Tree Post
It was in the MOM section under strategies. I read it, too, this morning, and thought it was excellent. It appears that the writer might have deleted it.
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Hi. I penned the "waking Up" on a perch at the top branch of an oak post. In the end I felt my perspective after ten years of a hard climb lacked hope, so I deleted it.
I can't say if all who struggle with their sexuality, surrenders to it, nor can I say everyone who is married to them resents climbing trees as much as I do.
I do know the worry once one realizes how the roots (of the marriage) are rotting. There is no way to know if the tree will stand or fall and instead of the focus being on joyful memories and gathering more, it always returns to the unhealth of the situation.
So yeah, I pushed delete. My truth or fear of heights may or may not be how others see it from a similar limb. By the way, being stuck out there clinging to a weakened branch has been stressful not only for me but for our children as well. Did I forget to mention hanging on through many windstorms? You can't see the wind exactly but you sure can feel the effects from such a vulnerable position.
- OutofHisCloset
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Detour,
I think all of our experiences and outlooks are both different and valuable. I know I get a lot out of people's differing perspectives, which often make me stop and think and re-evaluate my own position. I hope you won't feel as if you have to post only optimistic views or feel that you can't speak your truth, whatever you're feeling at the moment, whether optimistic or pessimistic.
I thought what you had to say in that post about the tree captured exactly the way I feel, too.
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- Ellexoh_nz
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detour wrote:
...a vulnerable position....
Climbing a tree then having to sit on a rotten branch......an excellent, and heartbreaking...analogy.
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