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1 - Count of Monte Cristo
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Keeping Photos?
Does anyone keep photos of the ex? Any family photos? I am insisting that she takes all of the wedding gifts too. About to erase all of the photos with her off my phone. I am also getting rid of any printed photos. It is awful to be tricked!!!! Merry Christmas and happy birthday to her on the 25! I hope she spends that night alone!!!
- Kel
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Do you guys have kids together?
I haven't thrown out anything with him in it because I feel it's part of my children's history. I don't look at them either, though. So the kids can figure out someday what they'd like to keep, and what they'd like to toss.
If I didn't have the kids, I probably wouldn't keep any of them. No attachment to him anymore.
Kel
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- Count of Monte Cristo
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2 kids with her. Actually missing the Christmas concert now as the in laws are there and it is a school my mother in law was a principal at. Not being introduced to more people as the son in law as things are over. Smaller town so when and if the word gets out a lot will know. Finding it hard to be Christmasy to say the least. Sucks!
Wish I told my parents already as I need the support.
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Thread Starter- lily
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yes, for heaven's sake, Count - tell your parents, it's not just their support you need - you need to get batting for you!
- Abby
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I also say tell your parents. I expect that since you have children they will keep it under their hats for the holidays but they may want to return Christmas presents bought for her and if they give anything, make it a cheaper token present. The sound generous: could that be why she wants to have the secret kept?
Try Gardening. It'll keep you grounded.
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I also say tell your parents. I expect that since you have children they will keep it under their hats for the holidays but they may want to return Christmas presents bought for her and if they give anything, make it a cheaper token present. The sound generous: could that be why she wants to have the secret kept?
Try Gardening. It'll keep you grounded.
- Count of Monte Cristo
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No. Not why she wants to stay. We aren't ritzy, but by a fluke we own 2 log houses and are in a beauty right now. My parents have taken us on an alaskan cruise, and paid for maui trip and so on. She keeps saying you are going to inherit a million or 2! Well. That is great. I don't want my parents to die!!!! Yes. I should have said something. So insane.
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Thread Starter- Count of Monte Cristo
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40 in feb. Just moved and so on. The woman she was with was a solid 1 out of 10. I know I have no chance with her because I am a man!!! So ridiculous.
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Thread Starter- lily
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It is good you are getting divorced now. She sounds like my ex - sizing you up for financial benefit.
what's stopping you from telling them, can you pinpoint it?
I found I was very reluctant to tell the people I needed to too - it's a common feeling amongst us straight spouses, I think, in a subterranean sort of way, we've sort of been trained to keep their closet safe.