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February 13, 2018 1:51 pm  #11


Re: Do Gay men keep nude pics of other men on PC if not gay?

Daryl...are you suggesting that my husband may NOT be gay bc he may just be a game player by saying he was just breaking chops?  This was when I discovered the pics on his pc, the nude pic of his penis on his cell phone and soliciting on Craig's List.  This statement of "I was just breaking their chops" was directly his response when I found the pics and the solicitation.  There were no viewable dates of the hook-ups just describing himself to others for the interest of a pick up.  I don't have any concrete proof that the events actually took place.  This is why I asked earlier for some type of tracking company to use in case theere were further communications.  The "issue" was never discussed again for a couple years now(even though I do occasionally check his pc bc of the trust issues now) and I also gave him an ultimatum of being thrown out IF I discovered anything like this again.  You have me wondering now bc I was trying to accept IF he truly is gay or just a "game player" which is not right either but somehow an easier blow to deal with...  Anyone have any ideas on the tracking, would be very much appreciated or on this post.  As like everyone here, I'm trying to unravel the web of lies still.

 

February 13, 2018 2:31 pm  #12


Re: Do Gay men keep nude pics of other men on PC if not gay?

Deceived&Lost,

I'll drop you an inbox note later today on how to investigate this thoroughly. Swamped right now in work.

Keep in mind that you are more than likely going to find out everything you already suspect. Straight men do not collect (or save) penis pics of any variety and do not communicate with gay men online in the manner you have outlined.

 

February 13, 2018 7:38 pm  #13


Re: Do Gay men keep nude pics of other men on PC if not gay?

Deceived&Lost wrote:

Daryl...are you suggesting that my husband may NOT be gay bc he may just be a game player by saying he was just breaking chops? 

Not at all. I was suggesting that after he was caught posting on CL, this was what he came up with as a (non-gay) reason to be there. I think it's about as truthful as a $3 bill.


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― Joe Strummer
 

June 29, 2021 4:05 pm  #14


Re: Do Gay men keep nude pics of other men on PC if not gay?

The answer to this question is no. You do not have naked pictures of another man’s wedding tackle unless you are gay

or

Maybe you are a Urologist. 


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June 30, 2021 9:51 am  #15


Re: Do Gay men keep nude pics of other men on PC if not gay?

Ordinary guy wrote:

The answer to this question is no. You do not have naked pictures of another man’s wedding tackle unless you are gay

or

Maybe you are a Urologist. 

Hahah! It's very rare I find myself laughing on this site...but this did it  

 

July 5, 2021 10:06 pm  #16


Re: Do Gay men keep nude pics of other men on PC if not gay?

He could be bi..... Also... a lot of straight identifying men watch gay porn... A lot of women do as well. Peoples porn habits do not definitively tell you all you want to know about someone. 

 

July 6, 2021 5:11 am  #17


Re: Do Gay men keep nude pics of other men on PC if not gay?

Most girl talk I’ve been party too when that subject comes up - it’s a big resounding No to porn. It’s not suppose to be what’s on the screen but what is suppose to be occurring between the two of you.

If any of my girlfriends found gay porn, gay pictures of a guy that would raise huge red flags I know it did for me. Gay porn. Gay same sex nine month affair. It’s one of the biggest red flag you can find.

Last edited by longwayhome (July 6, 2021 5:21 am)


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July 6, 2021 8:28 am  #18


Re: Do Gay men keep nude pics of other men on PC if not gay?

I've only found references to one survey, made by an online porn distributor, of less than 1000 people, that suggested 21% of "straight" men watched gay porn. This is interesting but isn't statistically significant without additional surveys that either support or discount this conclusion. Not all men watch porn online. There's also no way to verify that those who said they were straight, really are. That's an area many of us can relate with.

In my opinion, habitual viewing demonstrates an interest, as does downloading pics, saving links, etc.

I did not see any number listed for straight women watching gay porn. I suspect the base number of women participating was not large enough to discern anything.
 

Last edited by Daryl (July 6, 2021 8:28 am)


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July 6, 2021 9:47 am  #19


Re: Do Gay men keep nude pics of other men on PC if not gay?

Thanks for sharing the survey results. The other problem they’ve found with these specific types of surveys is that men that watch gay porn do identify as straight, so it skews their results.

So they’ve gotten wise to this in recent years but introducing new terminology e.g. men on men sex/porn. They are trying to determine if it’s really straight men watching or men who just can’t identify as gay, but are definitely into the same sex attraction.

Nice to hear not all men watch porn. I didn’t think so, but today, I’m not sure if what I know is real anymore. So every little bit of tid bit I can pick up that reaffirms me, my beliefs are valid. I take it all in.

I have a real problem with any type of porn, but especially porn that has women in it. The porn industry is nothing but a cover for much uglier, dark activities. Some women become trapped, they watch for young runaway girls filled with pain already and oh it’s just awful.

My husband used to watch regular born. Years ago, behind my back. Left his computer on. I told him how I felt. He told me he understood and he would not  feed into the porn industry. He lied.

He must have reached a point where the women in the porn became an irritant and he just switched to men on men oorn, and that’s what he called it too, gay is not a word he is even close to uttering.

Again, thanks for sharing.

Edited to add: there is also some scientific proof that is starting to emerge that watching porn over time, frequency surely comes into play too, but it actually starts to change things in our brains. Pretty powerful in my opinion.

Last edited by longwayhome (July 6, 2021 9:52 am)


I can almost see it, That dream I'm dreaming...There's always gonna be another mountain, I'm always gonna wanna make it move...The Climb - Miley Cyrus
 

July 6, 2021 10:01 am  #20


Re: Do Gay men keep nude pics of other men on PC if not gay?

Yes, I've read that as well, it's like the search for the next high. Particularly worrisome in young people as it might impede their ability to form real intimate relationships.


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