I don't know whether it's fair but I will tell you that my now-ex also sat down to pee.  He was 6'4" and said it was easier and cleaner.  Made sense to me...until, decades later, he told me he'd decided he was transgender and I began casting back through our lives together re-seeing everything through that new lens, and I asked myself: did he do it because it was easier and cleaner or did he do it because women did it?  

My experience may be irrelevant to your situation now, and I have no idea how widespread a phenomenon it is with men to sit down to pee, but I will say that if you're asking, you're asking for a reason, and that reason is that you're uncomfortable with it, and if you're uncomfortable with it, you see it as some kind of red flag indicating something that upsets you, and if you are so upset by it, why don't you raise your discomfort with your husband?  You don't have to ask him to stop to open the discussion. 

My late GIDXH did this too. I had other boyfriends and lived with another guy (not married to him) before meeting my ex-h -- not one of them sat down ever.

My guess is he didn't want to be intimate. He felt weird showing his private parts. It was a natural reaction to an unnatural situation of his making.  I've had female roommates/friends and I never showed anything. I would feel weird if I accidentally flashed or was flashed by them. 

Don't know if it's the same with your h. I would like to hear what the guys of the forum say about this too.
 

Ellexoh_nz wrote:

Treelovingvegan wrote:

....Is it fair to ask my husband to stop sitting down to pee?....

I would say no it's not fair. This is a very personal act and it's got nothing to do with you. 

Insist on him shutting the door and for your sake.....walk away!!

Elle
 

In any other circumstance I would agree. His sitting down made me aware of the long time he spent in there at home and in public restrooms.  Assume he was using poppers before he went out by himself.   He "lost" the air fresheners I bought. He insisted on using a particular scent & brand --Glade lavender (no joke).

Long public restroom visits as a first stop when we went out were annoying but was naive. I know what this means now.

Bathrooms have a very sad meaning for me.

TVP, it might be good to ask. He may not want to dirty the floor with poor aim. 

Take care!

MJM017 wrote:

My late GIDXH did this too. I had other boyfriends and lived with another guy (not married to him) before meeting my ex-h -- not one of them sat down ever.

My guess is he didn't want to be intimate. He felt weird showing his private parts. It was a natural reaction to an unnatural situation of his making.  I've had female roommates/friends and I never showed anything. I would feel weird if I accidentally flashed or was flashed by them. 

Don't know if it's the same with your h. I would like to hear what the guys of the forum say about this too.
 

I don't mean to completely derail this thread but was there a reason for this? My ex-LW had no problem being topless and/or completely naked in front of her female friends. I always thought it was weird but never really said anything about it. I'm guessing that is another red-flag that I missed, huh?
 

There seems to be a more important question lurking in your mind than this one.  It sounds like (not based upon this question, but upon your other posts) your husband is not straight.  How are you processing that?