Treelovingvegan wrote:

.....Any time I argue with my husband,, ....I find my response is exaggerated because there is an underlying issue of anger with the bigger issue in our Marriage that brings me to this site.
Can Any one else relate?

I used to have that exaggerated response. Flying off the handle! Even I could see I was way over the top. It's all very well to have an onlooker say "woah..settle down" but most onlookers, even family & friends..probably wouldn't mention it so as not to offend and if they know our backstory...may be very hesitant to intrude. 
So TLV...we work on ourselves right?. I did and you seem self-aware enough to see the link so I hope you can smooth out your responses to these times when you're triggered. I had to learn to be present in the moment these times happened, and consciously hold back
I can say though it takes a bucketload of self-control but once you have it under control you'll feel better. About yourself and your own ability

Elle