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The Redwine case
I'm not sure if anyone is familiar with the Dylan Redwine case but I feel like it might be of some interest. I only recently came across it because after 10 years, the father is finally seeing his day in court for the alleged murder of his own son. It is believed the motive was that the young man found photos on his fathers laptop and confronted him. The case is very dark and could be triggering for some readers/listeners but the pattern of narcist, denial, and blame shifting are ever so present. The photos in question are of Mark Redwine (Dylan Redwine's father) in women's clothing, wearing a child's bonnet with a diaper in his mouth and the other detail is too disgusting to repeat. The mother, who exercised her right to a divorce years prior was made aware of these photos and when her two friends confronted Mark, he lifted a log over his head in an attempt to attack them. The two women quickly drove away. All of this started in 2012 and now in 2021, Mark is finally going to see his day. I for one wish Dylan's mother Justice. This motive was hidden time and time again. There was a Dr. Phil special involving the case that I didn't watch but it seemed as if the fetish, the cross-dressing and possible motive were not given much attention.
Has anyone else been following this case and have any input as to why that seemed to be such a shrouded part of this case despite being the biggest possible motive? I'm just watching this trial and floored that I haven't seen a single expert on this issue show up. Would love to hear some theories.
Sorry if this post doesn't belong here, it just seemed very relevant.
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Hi I haven’t posted in quite a while. Logged in this morning for some reason (new hubby is sleeping, today is our 3rd wedding anniversary). My username still holds true from my gid ex husband who I was married to for 22 years. After our divorce he tried to kill me. I still live with the physical pain and chunk of my arm that’s missing. My ex was never arrested. Cops said you both have different stories, go live your lives. For awhile I was quite obsessed with “the staircase “. The judge in that case said he would never allow tgt ever again into a trial. Too explosive. Omg like wow, are you kidding me. Not a motive? My ex is over 60 and has spent his life hiding from the truth (still in the closet). Not sure why I logged on today. The pain will never leave me. When people ask me what happened to my arm, I’ve been able to shorten it to. “That was a gift from my ex Husband”.
Depending on the person, place, time, my mood, how much my arm/hand is hurting that day. The answers and follow up can range. When seriously pushed, I sometimes disclose the gay in denial, he hated me because I knew the truth. It’s usually not worth it though, I can’t stand the how did you not knows . This topic infuriates me though. I feel as it’s just more collateral damage. Not politically correct, you know. Can’t be a motive etc.
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Hello 4everdamaged,
Happy Anniversary to you and your husband. I am really, really sorry your ex harmed you. I hope he spent some time in prison for what he did to you. Unforgivable....
I wanted to divorce my physically and emotionally abusive GIDH a few years into the marriage. He threatened me & I stayed. I mustered up all my strength to leave him after almost 20 years of marriage. I've since learned these heinous men ramp up the abuse after being left. It was a relief that he died some months after the divorce. I believe there would have been no more me if he remained alive.
I don't know why some of these GIDHs become so psychopathic-like. I agree TGT is a factor. I agree with longwayhome in getting away quietly & disappearing when you first realize you're with a closeted gay or MTF trans. Do it early or you may wind up with being hit and having a death threat over your head if you stay. These people consider you their property.
Who knew, right? It's all pc - glad you had the courage. The general public has no idea what some do with their "courage." Hoping the revamped website details this happens to some of us. I wonder if reaching out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline may help those in the same situation.
Am very glad you posted. I know there are many women (& men) who are married to violent gays in denial. It's easier for me to post since my problem guy is gone forever.
Sending you comforting thoughts and am angry at that no good ex of yours.
Best,
Maria
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No - It's not too late. It's not hopeless. Even there, there's something I can do. I just have to find the will. Ikiru (1952), film directed by Akira Kurosawa
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taketwo,
I didn't know about this case until you posted it. I watched his oldest son's testimony yesterday and it was heart wrenching. Those photos are the motive in this trial. I wonder if the FBI profiler who was instrumental in getting this guy arrested will be called to the stand. This cross dressing narcissist is not "trans" but in today's PC world he could claim to be and come out to praise and support.
JK Rowling gets it:
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Thanks for the kind replies. Was not my intention to hijack thread. Yes I’m doing my best to live as happy a life as possible. Long way home, I wish you all the best of luck. I did not plan an exit strategy. I just reached my breaking point one day and ran with what I could put in my car with a step brother and friend there for back up.
Best wishes to all! Please keep the good fight going.
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Dear 4everdamaged,
Am sorry that I missed he was never arrested. I am appalled he's not sitting in prison rotting away right now. I hope you are safe and protected from him.
I wanted to leave and was intent on it, but was afraid. He hit me the night before I had to leave for a work trip. (He wanted to punish me for not taking him along. Assume he would indulge in anonymous gay sex in a new city while I was working away financially supporting him.)
I snapped and called 911. The police arrested him. It was all downhill for him after that. He did cause trouble by breaking his restraining order and coming to our place to get a credit card check to pay for his bail. I ended up paying the bond for his bail for a crime committed against me. He had no income, but put up our home as collateral. That came back to haunt him.
You didn't hijack the thread at all. You deserve to write when you wish and need to. It helps others - it helped me. That bad stuff is in the rear view mirror. As time passes, it will be further and further away from you. Take care!
No - It's not too late. It's not hopeless. Even there, there's something I can do. I just have to find the will. Ikiru (1952), film directed by Akira Kurosawa