Wow, your list is pretty conclusive. You came up with things I hadn’t thought of, and it bumped my list of “reasons to leave” up to 105. I would hope you don’t have to stay in your situation until you have years to accumulate 105 reasons... I tell myself one reason is enough to leave. I haven’t even put some things on my list, because I’m keeping it related to his gay or trans in denial side.

I think the common theme to a sudden interest in “manscaping” is that it’s usually (always?) for a reason. Did he suddenly take up swimming or cycling? If he’s not doing it for you, it’s for some other reason. My husband took my epilator and did his whole area down there and wanted me to praise him....he also told friends about it and wanted their attention. He kept praising himself, he was far more impressed and excited with himself than he ever has been when I got waxed or epilated for him. He definitely only did it for attention.

Yes, my husband constantly needs reassurance about his appearance! Thanks for your response.