How could it backfire though? What's the worst that could happen? Shouldn't I be shouting it from the rooftops so that another unsuspecting straight woman is not lured into his trap again?

I received some text messages from my ex's "girl" yesterday. I'm assuming it's the 70-year old female age play partner from Fortworth Texas or her friend because I received messages from two different phone numbers. She wrote, "You seem like a pretty immature I’ll mannered young upstart." and the other one wrote: "If he's gay like u said he is how did u become his wife??? Are u the female in the relationship (but actually a man)?" and "Lmao ur scared." I tried to be nice, I tried to warn the people I caught him texting to...but his gay lover in Singapore wrote "go away" and the girl in German wrote "Let me him peace have nothing to do with your quarrel. I know him he was never so where I had contact with him sorry". I admit I shouldn't have contacted any of them, but, I'm still searching for the truth and what the hell happened you know? My ex has never admitted anything, I had to find out by reading his messages instead. People are so stupid. 

I really loved those three questions gwendolyn_C. I'm going to make them my computer wallpaper from now on so that I look at them every day! Those are very very good.

And Rob, I really appreciate a man commenting because...I just don't know and still have doubts you know? But if you're a guy and you're saying...run, that means something. Are you sure that prostate stimulation is not a sure sign he's gay though? I mean don't some straight men like that?

Hi, I married a guy during the Pandemic, been married two years and it's been HELL for me.

At first, he told me "I'm not good with intimacy" when we first started dated.  The first time he saw me fully naked he said out loud that he thought he might be gay, so I tried to help him find the answer while we were living together, b4 marriage. He experimented with a guy and then came back to me and promised that he hated it and that he wasn't gay.

The sex was always bizarre and strange though, he acted like someone who had been sexually traumatised as a baby or as a child, like always going into fetal position when naked. I felt sorry for him and tried to help him with compassion. I found him a urologist, a psychologist and other specialists who determined he had no Testo and had an undescended testicle, so I thought, that's it, that can be fixed and I had hope. So, I got him help for it.

But...he's always been a dry kisser, never looks at me when I'm naked, strange/awkward in bed, and made excuses about his ED. At first it was, he blamed it on smoking and bad circulation or alcohol, then it was that he just liked prostate stimulation and to "experiment", then it was that he was very empathetic and if I was stressed he wouldn't be able to perform, then it was that he liked to be submissive, etc. etc. etc. At one point during sex he blurted out "this is so not like me". The sex got better when he was on Testo. But then...he just stopped everything, stopped treatment, stopped medication, full stop and things have been horrible for me.

3 months ago I found his secret sexual paraphilia toys. He's into genital mutilation of the penis and balls and he had 3 huge black dildos and a bunch anus expanding toys and ball and torture devices When I confronted him about them, he lied and said they were old. They weren't, he bought them recently. He thinks that this is "experimentation"...but...obviously this stuff desensitizes him and makes him unable to get an erection with a w