Hi Everyone -- I wanted to get some feedback from Sean, but anyone feel free to join if you have feedback: 

Sean, when you were in the closet and working toward marriage, what were your major goals? When choosing a spouse, did you want someone because you wanted kids? Did you want someone to understand you? Someone to make you feel straight (I guess)? I read a thread about how sometimes closet gay men choose women who come from broken families or alcoholics because they are good at keeping secrets. I found that so interesting, fascinating and helpful. 

My ex has jumped into a relationship with a younger girl who is first generation American (originally from Mexico) and he is so heavily involved in all family affairs... this includes many birthdays, family outings, etc. It seems so odd to be that close, that soon. It makes me feel like its yet another cover up or, that I'm nuts and he just is very happy (not in the closet). 

I would really like to know your mindset during that time and if anyone else has experienced this. 

Hi Everyone -- I wanted to get some feedback from Sean, but anyone feel free to join if you have feedback: 

Sean, when you were in the closet and working toward marriage, what were your major goals? When choosing a spouse, did you want someone because you wanted kids? Did you want someone to understand you? Someone to make you feel straight (I guess)? I read a thread about how sometimes closet gay men choose women who come from broken families or alcoholics because they are good at keeping secrets. I found that so interesting, fascinating and helpful. 

My ex has jumped into a relationship with a younger girl who is first generation American. (Originally from Mexico) and he is so heavily involved in all family affairs... this includes many birthdays, fiestas, etc. It seems so odd to be that close, that soon. It makes me feel like its yet another cover up or, that I'm nuts and he just is very happy (not in the closet). 

I would really like to know your mindset during that time and what was the biggest objective. 

Has anyone who is no longer with their gay/in the closet gay ex experiencing them moving on quickly or in an unreal way? I feel so crazy. 
I've read that closeted gay men will stop at nothing to continue living a lie, but i'm really shocked. Im questioning everything from day 1. 
 

Hi Sean, 

In my gut I am feeling my ex is gay but am glad you are here as a resource. We dated 5 months (I know, it's not as devastating as the other stories, but let me assure you, one can never be ok with the mental chaos and questions. This man slept next to me and never touched me. He kissed with his lips closed. he kissed me THREE TIMES total. He asked me for face cream on two occasions and would let his yorkie sleep in between us. After I finally broke up with him, he quietly moved on to another female completely different than me within two weeks. He of course denied it. And also made me feel like I was the reason we didnt work."We should be further along" he said. I was in disbelief. He is very good looking, and smart and grew up in the theater and as an actor. Do you think I am right to trust my instincts or am I the only person ever to have a bizarre encounter like this? He is 32 by the way.