When Ive tried bringing it up in the past he shot me down. Part of the reason he doesnt even know I know he has done anything physical with men. How should I ensure we talk? I feel just dropping things that will force him to talk may come off as judgmental and even demeaning and I dont want to do that but we have got to talk. I just want honesty. What questions should I ask to kind of gage where his head is?
I dont really have anyone else to talk to or guide me with this.

Im also concerned about if hell react in any negative or violent way. I know he respects and loves his mom and part of me believes that he already knows hes gay but will never act on or do anything about it while she's alive. (Myself, he, and his entire family are christians) I believe considering the breakdown he had before when I wasnt even being mean, rude, judgmental or anything yet he flipped out. Not towards me but just complete mental breakdown.

Hey everyone! My husband (21) and myself (22) are both military, which is how we met. Im no longer in but he is and upon me exiting service we decided to get married so that I wouldnt have to move back home. Im actually starting to feel thats the only reason other than me being a coverstory.

About 4 months ago he was playing the game and I was upstairs. When I came down his headset was on so he couldnt hear me and I decided to sit on the couch and wait. I had to move his phone and I got a glance of a reddit post. I cant recall everything but it was a man complaining about his wife. I was interested because men in those groups usually tend to ruin your life later lol. I read the post and didnt see any issues but as I kept looking I started to see different reddit groups such as r/gayporn r/grindr r/quitgrindr and about 2 more scrolls worth of stuff maybe over 20 groups. I looked for about 5 seconds when he turned his head and snatched his phone. I asked what was that he brushed it off and I said okay and went back upstairs. I truly didnt know how to feel.

Later that day he asks to talk to me and told me he would delete everything and that he was sexually assaulted as a kid and since then he hasnt been the same but I call bs. The story sounds made up truly but as someone who has dealt with similar I didnt want to be quick to judge. Truthfully though it sounded like a complete lie. I just said okay sorry he went through that and he gave me a big hug and said it felt good to get that off his chest.

Not long after I caught him again. We were already in an argument and when I woke up in middle of the night I happen to see a reddit notification. I confront him after he got home from work. ( even though I feel betrayed I wouldve hate to make him go to work with all that on his brain. ) We were having two arguments in one but the gay argument lead to him having a complete breakdown. shaking and I couldnt console him. All he wanted to do was call his mom but I told him he