Hey there Seriously?

Common schmommon lol. Keep up your good mothering and communication with your young ones. Let them 
know they can ask you questions and you're there to answer them as best you can. Their father isn't around as 
much so by the sound of it he's getting used to his new life, maybe even a little hesitant to see his children and have to maybe face their questions. The disregard may be simply a discomfit because he knows walking out on them is tough. On them. What a thoughtless man.

Be the strong one and remember to keep a record of how often and how long he does see them

Elle

Seriously? wrote:

It didn't occur to me that he might not want to face them, especially since he has started dating a man.  Of course he is not self aware enough to even realize that.  For someone who has been so selfish, and self centered he isn't very self aware.

Oh I think he may not seem self-aware to you because you're the adult he duped into believing he was something he's not, and now you know your opinion of him has changed. The children will be different. Do you think he'll be waiting and hoping that you, as mother & caregiver, will take on the job of telling them/smoothing the waters?...to make it easier to see the children again?

E
 

Thank you both for your insights.  

This behavior is incomprehensible to me

Yes, I have support.  I have had a therapist since he came out.  My 3 sisters have also been great.  I don't really have friends locally because we just moved here in Dec 2022.  I have close friends scattered around the country and we keep up electronically and by phone.