OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Here's the Kicker - My Divorce was Denied

**Posted by Anon2222** January 9, 2025 7:47 pm

Just got an email from my lawyer. It has been 3 years since he walked out and dumped everything on me and completely ruined my life. And the cherry on top?

The court REJECTED my application for divorce.

He emotional and psychologically tortured me. He stole. He cheated. He lied. And now I am going to have to re-file for divorce, because the court rejected the application because I legally changed back to my maiden name (2 years after he up and left). Can someone make any of this make any sense.

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** January 9, 2025 8:17 pm

Anon2222 wrote:
The court REJECTED my application for divorce..

Surely your lawyer must have been as non-plussed as you. ..what did he/she say?

Elle

**Posted by Anon2222** January 9, 2025 11:07 pm

It is complete BS. Two years after my was-band made his "I'm gay, I'm divorcing you" announcement and walked out, I decided to change my name back to my maiden name. The judge apparently took offense to this, and denied my application for divorce because my "name didn't match" - and has requested that I formally change my name back to my married name and get new government issued ID, then apply for a divorce again. And then once it's approved I can then legally change back to my maiden name (again!) and get all new IDs.

My lawyer stated he had never seen anything like it and has obviously appealed. He thinks it will be thrown out, eventually. I just happened to get a POS judge who decided that a woman has to have the last name of her abusive former gay in denial "husband" to be able to divorce him.

The saga continues.

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** January 10, 2025 12:10 am

Anon2222 wrote:
It is complete BS.

He thinks it will be thrown out, eventually. I just happened to get a POS judge who decided that a woman has to have the last name of her abusive former gay in denial "husband" to be able to divorce him.

What a stupid judge! I wish you all the luck to have this resolved in the way it should be

E

**Posted by lily** January 10, 2025 3:55 pm

have to say, what's going on with your lawyer? Either the judge is being arbitrary or there's an issue with your lawyer - didn't know you couldn't change names before divorce? it sounds a bit odd to me.

Last edited by lily (January 10, 2025 3:56 pm)

**Posted by Anon2222** January 10, 2025 4:43 pm

I haven't been even remotely happy with my lawyer, but by the time it got to this point, everything was pretty much done. So it's too late now because I just can't afford to hire someone else. Divorce laws changed recently, and I have a hard time believing that it wasn't the reason he demanded a divorce when he did.

**Posted by lily** January 10, 2025 6:04 pm

sorry to hear that, Anon - when I look back the worst time was when I was getting divorced - once it was completed it was a huge relief.

**Posted by Anon 765** January 11, 2025 9:54 am

Oh, that's awful! I hope your lawyer can figure it out for you ASAP. You will get there, but these kinds of setbacks are demoralizing.