OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Heartbroken

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** May 3, 2025 1:03 pm

mm3 wrote:
..,I ended up with 50/50.
.....It's hard but I know I made the right decision despite everything I have lost. I am so much happier and freer being away from this person who has gaslit me and trapped me with his lies.

As a resilient and caring woman you can get through any storms that arise because you are happier and free.
(of course he found himself another woman to hide behind.....lol)

Elle

**Posted by Rob** May 14, 2025 7:53 am

Mm3,

You are doing great..even it doesn't feel like it. Your kids now get a stronger unabused mom.
They will see, maybe not now, but as they get older what a fiercely loyal and loving mom looks like.

As to your ex. He gets to show the kids what he is made of now that he thinks his morals are right. But those kids will need you now more than ever. And fact is you know what he is made of and a new closeted existence should be no surprise...its the life he knows and wants. My GX continues to straddle the closet...I thank God everyday I'm not part of that anymore. I'm such a better dad now with my one kid now gravitating toward me for help as his mother is not a pillar of empathy..these kids will need us for sure.

Wishing you strength and stoic courage and love.

**Posted by OutofHisCloset** May 17, 2025 2:55 pm

Mm3,
I don't log in very often anymore, but I did today, and saw that your ex has taken up with a new woman. You're smart to decide not to waste energy on her decisions. My trans-identifying ex, after deciding to stay closeted, also took up with a new woman. I did tell her, because if it were me, I would want to know--at one point, after all, it was me, and I would have liked to know! It was a futile gesture, and it's very likely anything you said to your ex's new partner wouldn't change her mind.