My wife of 17 years just came out as lesbian.  We have 2 kids.  Says she has had these feelings for a few years.  She has not cheated, says she wants a divorce,  and says she would like us to be friends on the other side of this. Says she has always loved me and always wil.  She was my dream girl and we have had a great  marriage. She seems like a different person now, almost kind of cold.  She says she feels so much better now that people know.

I fully support her and want a friendship in the end.  But it’s still hard.  Never saw this coming. 

Thanks for letting me vent.