OOHC, I had the delayed reaction to the “all tarted up.” I think I was numb when I wrote my post and later it hit. As you said really confirms my need for life long separation. 4 years in, the AGP/obsession is growing, taking over. He’s more and more comfortable being full out in public. I’m still predictably lagging behind in-as in oh  sh** this is really happening.

So thankful for you all who (sadly) share this path of shocking turns in the road.