I've been married in the high 20s number of years. And am just now coming to terms with this world. What has been very surprising to me is that my mate has turned into someone I do not recognize. She will lie about her whereabouts, ,and then when "caught" in this lie, will then try to demur with "i had such a bad time… it was ONLY this… this is the FIRST TIME i did this…". It's all so terribly transparent to me. I'm sure most people here know this routine. But wow, this woman has never acted like this before in her life. It's what originally drew me to her. She was a good egg. And now suddenly she's the sort of person, she, herself, would hate. I don't know what's up, but I'm way beyond willing to deal with it. She was on Prozac for almost 20 years. And then suddenly not. I feel like I'm dealing with a crazy person most days. Not the person I married. Not denying anything. But this is a lost cause imo.