OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / 31 years together and 4 years post disclosure

**Posted by TangledOil** August 14, 2023 7:22 pm

We are so proud of us. I know it’s an odd thing to say, but we have seen so many others around us divorce and remarry, divorce again etc… We’re really proud of us as a couple. We surmise we probably have a healthier marriage than more than 80% of those we know. We just celebrated a wedding anniversary so my husband and I were talking about all of this. It’s pretty amazing.

Tangled

Last edited by TangledOil (August 14, 2023 7:33 pm)

**Posted by emeraldsong** December 31, 2023 8:29 pm

Hi Tangled,

Congratulations on 31 year of marriage and being four year post disclosure as of August. I am sorry that no one else has taken the time to congratulate you. You should be proud of your marriage.

I am currently about 5 days post disclosure/discovery. I am proud that I ate real food today and have not had a panic attack. We have already met with a counselor and have individual appointments for this coming week. We are talking with each other a lot.

What advice would your give or what do you wish you had known when you were at this stage of your journey.

**Posted by Alex1984** February 28, 2024 2:24 am

Congratulations, Tangled! My husband came out to me as bi just over two months ago. We are both committed to staying married and I generally couldn't wish for a better partner. He is respectful, smart, successful, a great farther, handsome, we are emotionally close and we have great sex. Despite all this, it is hard. I feel sad for him having to keep this secret all his life; and for me having to deal with this whole new side of him. I have to say my self esteem was shaken. How do I compete with THAT, right? I am slowly coming back online, but it is an emotional roller-coaster. It is inspiring to have positive examples!!! What would you say were the most important components that saved your marriage?

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