Victo, I agree with your comments re brusqueness as a first response but I think Sam did the right thing re Gloria, did you see the post she wrote before it was removed?.

 

The way I look at it, kindness and respect go a long way. Many here, especially the newer members, are hurt, sad, scared, may be experiencing PTSD, and it's easy to be triggered by something another person might think is an innocuous comment. (It's one of the reasons we asked some members, who are not the straight spouse, to limit their activities to one place that can be easily avoided, if necessary.)

Even when offering a little 'tough love', love is the operative word.

When someone says they want to be left alone, we need to respect that choice.

If someone is determined to make something work with their spouse, again we have to respect that.

If they are 'treading water' before making larger changes, again, that is their call.

And finally, no one gets to tell my story, or interpret it, except me.

I hate seeing things like this blow up, as it often derails someone else's support thread. It also runs the risk that they might bow out, not wanting to be involved in other peoples disputes. Not a good look.

All my opinions of course. Peace.
 

Yes it's interesting, I looked up the dictionary definitions and bisexual is described as being sexually attracted to both men and women while pansexual is described as sexually attracted to men and women, straight gay trans or anything.