OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Going public

**Posted by Just_me1081** September 30, 2022 2:23 pm

Its been almost 5 years since my ex-husband came out as gay on Thanksgiving on Facebook. Most days I thank God that he came out when he did, because it forced me to face the facts and start to move on.

But today, he posted on Facebook again.

"Hes the love of my life." "Hes the most caring person Ive ever met." "[Eleven year old daughter] loves him. She calls him her best friend"

How the eff do I cope with that? And to watch all the people comment on his post, like he's some type of hero for deceiving me for 20 years.

Eff him.

**Posted by lily** September 30, 2022 3:23 pm

Hi Just me,

You have my sympathy. I don't think there is any way to cope with it.

It's disgusting isn't it, the way people ignore the pain of the straight spouse. And it's sad. It's sad because it is an attack on human happiness.

I guess you could add something to the mix. Probably, well seriously probably the sensible thing is not to look at his Facebook page again. But, a little bit of blow back can make one feel a little better - maybe you can post a comment on his page? something like, oh great, how lucky for you to find someone who will continually care for you, just like I did - and this time it's a man.

Last edited by lily (September 30, 2022 3:24 pm)

**Posted by Rob** October 2, 2022 6:35 pm

Justme,

The words he posted are no more true than the words he said to you. And his yelling, screaming or posting words on facebook does not make them true. My other strong belief is what does he know about love... Such blatant narcissism as if there is some need to say the words..

Unfollow/unfriend him, NO CONTACT.

Last edited by Rob (October 2, 2022 6:37 pm)