OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Merry Xmas to all straightspouses on my side of the world

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** December 24, 2020 3:24 pm

Just in case my partner bought me a gift I decided to get him a yoga mat and a cylindrical roll (not really sure what you do with it but Google will tell me right?) that we can both use. He was non-committal, maybe a little surprised and that's okay by me. He gave me nothing.
We'll have a xmas meal with our daughter and her husband then in just over a week I fly off to see my other 3 adult children for an extended month and a bit.

I know some straightspouses xmas day won't be easy and I send you wishes for the strength within you
and happy vibes to colour your day

Elle

**Posted by inkundermyskin** December 24, 2020 8:28 pm

I’m sorry he gave you nothing. My first Christmas without my ex and her girls in 10 years. Blows. But it is what it iis. Thanks for your wishes and a merry Christmas to you!!!!

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** December 24, 2020 11:48 pm

inkundermyskin wrote:
I’m sorry he gave you nothing. My first Christmas without my ex and her girls in 10 years. Blows. But it is what it iis. Thanks for your wishes and a merry Christmas to you!!!!

Thanks Iñk. Because we had a full day with family I haven't had much time to think about it so I think I'm over any hurt I might have felt in earlier days .
I don't give him sex anymore.,,.. He doesn't buy me a xmas gift. Seems like a fair swap and I'm okay with that ☺️

Elle

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** December 24, 2020 11:50 pm

itsabouther wrote:
Merry Christmas to all.

Same to you It'sabouther.

Elle

**Posted by Rob** December 25, 2020 12:18 am

Isaiah foretold some good news for us during this season;

"The people who walked in darkness
have seen a great light;
upon those who dwelt in the land of gloom a light has shone."

Merry Christmas straight spouses.

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** December 25, 2020 12:35 am

Rob wrote:
Isaiah foretold some good news for us during this season;

"The people who walked in darkness
have seen a great light;
upon those who dwelt in the land of gloom a light has shone."

Merry Christmas straight spouses.

..
Have a peaceful and pleasant Xmas Rob 🙂
..

**Posted by inkundermyskin** December 25, 2020 12:43 am

“I don't give him sex anymore.,,.. He doesn't buy me a xmas gift. Seems like a fair swap and I'm okay with that ☺️“

When I say you crack me up, I hope your laughing with me?!?!!!
But is that a fair trade for you or him?!?!
Well...:least the first Christmas, with our new lives for most of us, is almost behind us.
Merry Christmas to everyone

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** December 25, 2020 12:50 pm

inkundermyskin wrote:
......When I say you crack me up, I hope your laughing with me?!?!!!
But is that a fair trade for you or him?!?!...,.

Not laughing,... I used up all my emotion and happiness trying to understand and get my partner to NOT want to do the things he wanted to do with men and I'm just about empty. I've got a fair bit of rye and analogical humor left... that I use with the masks I put on... So everyone thinks nothing's wrong.
And yeah, nah there's no fair trade in this Mindfuck because.,. well, nothing's fair about it

Elle

**Posted by clintonia** December 25, 2020 1:51 pm

Haha, I was wondering the same thing about that quote, Ink!

Merry Christmas to all.

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** December 25, 2020 4:36 pm

clintonia wrote:

Clintonia...i saw your post about ” ripping him to pieces" and want to give you Support but don't think it's appropriate on a MOM board because I'd just tell you to use that anger... If not now, conserve it for later... and add it to what you'll need if you decide not to stay

Elle