I found this article earlier today and found it thoughtful... https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-the-erotic-code/201501/straight-women-and-their-gay-husbands
well I looked on Wikipedia. Joe Kort's partner is called Mike. Sort of explains why the article reads like it was written by a gay man doesn't it. At least he warns people it might not work out long term!