OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Remorse for filing for divorce

**Posted by LostIdentity** August 18, 2020 8:16 pm

I finally pulled the trigger, got a lawyer and started the process for divorce. My GID has cheated, lied and not treated me well. He recently asked me how the divorce was coming along, I had brought out when I discovered all the things he has done (which be denies). He has been super pleasant and nice to me today. Now I find myself questioning whether I am doing the right thing!! Why??? He has hurt me so much and has no intention of changing or admitting his fault. I want my husband and I to get along, thru and post divorce, for our son. Is this common? Has anyone had the same, question decision?

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** August 18, 2020 10:26 pm

LostIdentity wrote:
I finally pulled the trigger, got a lawyer and started the process for divorce......... Has anyone had the same, question decision?

Hi LostID I have done the initial moves with a lawyer. But not "pulled the trigger" yet. Because my partner can be dismissive and short (even cruel emotionally) I want to be as strong as I can in my conviction to leave/divorce him. So I don't turn into jelly!
Although sometimes I think I don't leave because I'm scared of that final step and it's holding me back......I know I could also not be ready yet. Between a rock and a hard place right?

Elle

**Posted by LostIdentity** August 19, 2020 10:40 am

Thank you both! The support and stories from this group have really helped me.

Elle- I was holding off on pulling the trigger. But he pushed me, when he asked how the divorce was coming along. I found out (not by him) that he was looking at my cellphone records. Guess he is trying to make me the villain in this story or come up with an excuse that I am the one doing wrong. He wont find anything. He can be very resentfully and nasty, which I am sure he will be once he gets served with divorce papers. Mainly why I was waiting a little bit.
Totally agree, between a rock and a hard place.

**Posted by walkbymyself** August 31, 2020 2:36 pm

I pulled the trigger when I discovered text messages where my HIV-positive husband was arranging to have anal sex with two male sex workers, and paying them $50 extra to do it without condoms.