Steve wrote:

1.5 years! My god!! I went insane in 3 months.

Yeah..you don't know my ex.  She is ..pigheaded..arrogant..stubborn..crazy. I realize now what a narcisst she is. It took her a long time to realize how a divorce works and that I would not solve her problems as I always used to.
She thought if she raged and  acted mean enough that I would just go coward  in a hole somewhere...she would remain a SATM with kids,her lover and her lover's  kids living in our house that I would continue to pay for while living on the street. 
That was how low her opinion was of me. 

I come here because it still boggles my mind..I was such a good husband..