I can't honestly say I've ever noticed little "signs" like you're mentioning. I just have very attuned gaydar now. I've told my brothers on several occasions that I thought my sister's husband was a little too eager for male body affirmation. That I think he'd be open to being with others - including men. They were like, "Kel - seriously? I think you think everyone is gay now." I was like, "Hey, you may think that, but whom else have I said such a thing about?" And you know what? I.WAS.RIGHT. He was sleeping with others - some of them men. My gaydar is dead on.
The only time it affected me was with this one guy I was dating years ago. He talked a ton about cooking, and when I went to his home, it was just..... TOO put together for a man. Everything was done in themes - his tiny bathroom, for instance, was done in old Hollywood glamour. He'd made floral arrangements for the walls in the living room. But the giant TV was in horrible condition - it essentially showed everything in shades of pink because something was broken. I couldn't care less about TV, and yet I found it very hard to watch it that way. He kept talking about how "perfect" I was - that my hair was so lustrous, and that my skin was so flawless. These are not things straight men say. They say, "You're pretty", and "Your skin's so soft". And they sure as hell don't make floral arrangements for their living room but don't care about the big flat screen. He may have been the straightest man on the planet, but I'll never know. I ran away too fast. And I'm NOT sorry I did.
Kel
Last edited by Kel (December 12, 2017 12:42 pm)
