OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Recent articles on MOMs

**Posted by gwendolyn_C** October 13, 2025 9:20 am

Hello - This coupled was featured in the Washington Post last week.

Samantha Wynn Greenstone knows her husband is gay. Yet they’ve been in a committed monogamous relationship for nearly 10 years.

They’re not alone. A new crop of couples are openly speaking about their mixed-orientation marriages, divorced from sexual attraction but not love. https://wapo.st/4nQtDmk

https://www.cnbctv18.com/travel/lifestyle/he-is-gay-she-straight-samantha-and-jacob-lavender-marriage-19710641.htm

**Posted by Dutchman** October 14, 2025 5:37 am

A "lavender marriage" is a special kind of MOM where the marriage is actually only intended as a cover for the gay spouse.
Personally, I think that's a pointless type of relationship, certainly not one I would choose.

I was under the impression that Samantha Wynn Greenstone and her husband, Jacob Hoff, don’t have a lavender marriage. I read that they explicitly deny that, so I think they won’t be happy with that depiction in the CNBC story.
The CNBC article seems willfully ignorant about what a MOM is. The fact that there are MOMs that aren’t intended as a façade apparently causes them a lot of cognitive dissonance.

**Posted by Alex1984** October 14, 2025 3:43 pm

Thank you for pointing it out, Dutchman. I follow Jacob and Samantha on Instagram and they are awesome. They constantly have to tell people that they are not in a lavender marriage. My marriage was referred to as "lavender" a few times as my husband was coming out. It angers me, but then I take a step back and think "whatever, if other people think my marriage is loveless/sexless, it doesn't make it such; and it tells more about the person thinking that than about me and my husband".