OurPath (formerly SSN) Open Forum / Anyone had success with trauma therapy?

**Posted by Anon2222** June 13, 2024 8:38 pm

All things considered, I am doing way better than I was at the beginning of the mind fuck. But I still have occasional flashbacks, nightmares, and emotional swings. I was diagnosed with C-PTSD from the abuse. I have gone to counselling for years now, slowly working through the sham that was my life. He continues to be a complete jackass in any dealings, insults me frequently, and I'm getting absolutely screwed legally and financially.

The part I am struggling with, still, is just the absolute cruelty. There is no need for it. The marriage is over. Can we just get the paperwork done already....

Anyway, I had reached out to a therapist that did EMDR for trauma, but found out it is $400/session. Which, to me, feels like absolute insanity. But, I am getting really tired of the uncontrolled physiological reactions. I would love it if they would just go the fuck away, but thus far I still can't control them.

So, has anyone tried any sort of specialized trauma therapy? Is it worth the insane cost?

**Posted by walkbymyself** June 14, 2024 9:38 am

I'm having all the same symptoms. I was working with a really good psychiatrist, but we had to stop when I switched over to Medicare. I took a break for around a year. I continued taking the antidepressant she'd prescribed, but started having really bad side effects and I had to stop.

Today I have a session with a new psychiatrist who takes my insurance, so we'll see.

**Posted by ellierigg** June 14, 2024 12:52 pm

Anon2222 wrote:
The part I am struggling with, still, is just the absolute cruelty. There is no need for it. The marriage is over. Can we just get the paperwork done already....

Dear Anon,
I can’t help with anything regarding therapy. I just had a thought reading these lines. In case you ever forget, and I think all of us do when we are being hurt by people we loved: Try and not take it personally. Your ex is a cruel a$$h@le, and his brutality only says something about him, nothing about you. I know you still have to deal with him, but try to imagine having a shield around you which doesn’t allow his cruelty to touch you emotionally. And try ro remember that nothing lasts forever, so this too will have it’s end and you can start a whole new life.