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**Posted by Sheth1973** December 30, 2024 9:45 am

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**Posted by Daryl** December 30, 2024 11:08 am

Sheth, although I expect many have some sympathy for you, I doubt anyone has practical advice for you other than 'seek personal counseling'. The purpose of this board is to offer peer support to the straight partner of a mixed orientation relationship. That is not your situation, and there are likely other discussion forums and websites that can better assist you. Do take care and be well.

**Posted by Rob** December 30, 2024 11:31 am

Like Daryl said many of us straights can't help with open marriage and same sex attraction issues... I will say many of us here have felt the disdain and rejection from our spouses and can identify with that..but then we did not change anything about who we were in the marriage.

Definitely seek counseling and put your kids above anything..someone has to.

**Posted by Anon2222** December 30, 2024 11:37 am

As Daryl pointed out - this is not the right support forum, as none of us here would be able to speak on the side of questioning sexuality, as we are the straight spouses who were (mostly) abused and dumped when the LGBTQ spouse came out.

My personal recommendation is to create some distance from your spouse and take some time to figure out what you want for yourself. Find a support forum for others in a similar situation. And, if you are able, look for a professional therapist who can help guide you in this process. I hope you find the help you need.

**Posted by Anon2222** December 30, 2024 11:40 am

Also - what Rob said - please do not put any of this on your children. More than anything, please ensure they are taken care of - physically, mentally and emotionally.

**Posted by EleanorIsntHere** December 31, 2024 3:40 am

Would anyone be able to share the original post with me? Not looking to have it reposted publicly if it was offensive, I just find myself looking for insight into my husband’s tortured mind and I am very curious when a questioning spouse shares openly. Thanks

**Posted by Ellexoh_nz** December 31, 2024 12:26 pm

EleanorIsntHere wrote:
Would anyone be able to share the original post with me?

I didn't see the original post and have surmised the person wasn't a straightspouse but thought he/she would be welcomed because many non-straight spouses tend to expect kindness and acceptance from everybody, even people they hurt.

There are plenty of websites out there for non-straights. He/she should have no problem finding the appropriate tribe to join.

Elle

**Posted by Rob** January 3, 2025 2:55 pm

EleanorIsntHere,

".. I just find myself looking for insight into my husband’s tortured mind .."

Careful what you wish for... I tried to figure my GX out ...why she was hurting me, cheating etc. In the end
I concluded she simply had "a broken moral core". Its not just about gayness but about morals, God, integrity, humanity etc. To hurt the person you vowed before God to love and cherish... it takes a certain type of person. Only when I realized she was malevolently broken borderline evil was I able to start distancing and protecting myself from the person that was supposed to be my best friend and spouse.

Wishing you strength and courage.

Last edited by Rob (January 3, 2025 2:57 pm)